making babies

Sunday 13 December 2009

I’ve long questioned the idea of donating eggs and sperm, especially with many children available for adoption and the population continuing to grow.  In many cases you get one “part” of the new baby donated (read “purchased”) and the other piece is used from one of the parents that are intended to raise the new child (though many times these manufactured births bring about multiple babies).  Sometimes both parents can use their egg/sperm but a surrogate must bring the child to term.

I know there are probably lots of arguments to be made, some I’ve probably not heard of, but for now, I’m not much in favor of doctors/scientists “creating” or “manufacturing” children.  Firstly, there is so much expense ($$) required to create a baby this way it seems to be a big waste, especially when there are plenty of children already born looking for a good home!

Why don’t people want to adopt?  There are plenty of reasons, I’m sure, but often times I think it comes down to selfishness and the desire to have a “blood child.”  Adopted children are often times looked at by society as “less than” “natural” children.  Until we find ways to better this ideal, the push for non-adoption practices will continue.

I could ramble on about this a lot more, I’m sure, but I want to take some of your reading energy to the NY Times article titled 21st-Centutry Babies — Building a Baby, With Few Ground Rules.  There is a lot there, though not necessarily a lot about some of the issues I brought up.  I do want to pull out a few quotes from the article that point to some of the issues I have with this practice:

“Ms. Kehoe handpicked the egg donor, a pre-med student at the University of Michigan. From the Web site of California Cryobank, she chose the anonymous sperm donor, an athletic man with a 4.0 high school grade-point average.”

“… it is now essentially possible to order up a baby, creating an emerging commercial market for surrogate babies …”

I think this is a great topic for conversation, so please, leave some comments and come back to read others!  (Now, click to see making babies, pt. 2!)

the haircut!

Tuesday 24 March 2009

It’s kind of hard to believe that it’s already been three weeks since I got my hair chopped off.  Though I still have the pony tail sitting in a plastic bag in my house, I will soon be sending it off to be used for the creation of a FREE wig for someone with a medical condition that causes them to lose their hair.  I still haven’t decided between the more well-known Locks of Love or the similarly altruistic Pantene Beautiful Lengths.  Either way, I’m confident it will go to benefit someone well deserving — with some strands, I’m sure, sold to help with the various overhead costs.  (I found a nice NY Times article — Lather, Rinse, Donate — about hair donation you could check out, too.)

It was quite the journey to a +10-inch pony tail, and I’ve had various thoughts along the way about growing my hair out, including this blog from January 2008 that is a good synopsis of various thoughts through the process.  The process of getting my hair cut was in no way traumatic or anything like that, but it did take some adjustment.  From going over two years gradually adjusting to longer hair as the hair grows a little more each day and then suddenly looking into the mirror and seeing the stark contrast to what you knew just an hour ago — it’s quite the shock, if you’ve never experienced it.  Even though who cut off a significant portion of their hair but still keep it “long” afterward probably don’t understand exactly how I felt going from this:

longhair1 longhair2

to this:

shorthair1 shorthair2

(Notice that while it may just be poor posture, it appears that with long hair, it’s pulling my head back by its weight while without the hair, my head if further forward.  Interesting…)

It took me about 2 weeks before I felt completely comfortable again with my hair length and style.  I remember back when my hair was a standard short length and I got it cut every 6 weeks or so, it usually took about a day or two to adjust to my new cut, so I figure that 2-3 weeks would be a similar rate of adjustment.

There are definitely people in my life (no names/relations will be named here…) who are trying to “guide” me to continue to cut my hair and keep it short, but I really don’t see much of a reason to, at least this early in the game.  And as I said to the hairdresser who chopped off my hair, “See you in 2 or 3 years?” — I’ll let you know how what choice makes the cut!